I just ask my long time girlfriend to marry me, I gave her an engagement I had made for her the ring holds 7 generations of the ladies in my family diamonds from their engagement rings. I think she doesn’t like it because she didn’t react or have then expression that she would when she likes something. I don’t know what to do buy her a new ring the one she wants? and take back my families ring?
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If it is the diamonds that are special, not the ring, then maybe you could start a new tradition and let her design a pendant or earrings with the diamonds.
Or a ring like that, which sounds very elaborate, would make a lovely eternity ring. Something that is given after the wedding, usually at the 1 year anniversary.
Then if you have a daughter they will have their mothers diamond, from her engagement ring, to add either to a new eternity ring or a new piece of jewelery.
There is a lot of emotion and pressure attached to an engagement ring, so it’s important you are both happy. This is the ring all her friends will ask to see and the ring she will wear daily for the rest of her life.
I would talk about it with her and perhaps offer to go ring shopping with her for a ring she likes. A good opening would be to mention that she doesn’t seem excited about her ring, and you wouldn’t take it as an insult if it just isn’t her style.
Marriage is all about compromise and this is a good place to start. The fact she hasn’t made a big deal about this is wonderful, (read some of the questions from ungrateful brides-to-be on this site and you’ll know how lucky you are) so it would be nice if you could make sure she is happy as well.
If I was offered a ring like that – I’d be thrilled to wear it. Goodness, I would think that buying a ring that she likes would be second choice to something that means so much. But, if she doesn’t like it – talk to her about it and find out what she’s thinking. Perhaps you can save it for one of your children and they will like it someday. You could even take the diamonds out and have a bracelet made that she likes but if she wants nothing to do with the family diamonds – well she’s got to be crazy – but ok – her choice – then save the ring for someone else in the family -perhaps a niece or cousin who would be thrilled. But, for some people – it’s like – weird to wear the diamonds of people who have passed away – she could see it as a constant reminder of her mortality which could be depressing to some people.
Discuss with her if she liked it or not, there’s no point of wearing something that she didn’t even like it. Take her out shopping and let her choose, set your budget first and tell her the amount of money you’re willing to spend on the ring. If she didn’t like the ring that you gave her, you might want to discuss with your family about it since it holds 7 generations in your family. Is she obligated to keep the ring?
Hmmm, I’m not sure how to say this, but, did she say yes. I am going to assume she said yes….if she didn’t I doubt it has to do with the ring. But, assuming she said yes, just ask her about it. She may not understand the importance of the ring to you. If you explain it and she still doesn’t like it, make a compromise. Maybe you could have the same diamonds set in a different band and in a different pattern. Maybe its a little too old fashioned for her, and quite frankly, if you are going to get married, you 2 should be able to discuss this. Its nothing against you, woman just have preferences men don’t understand, so talk to her.
You should really take this up with her because communication in a relationship is key. Maybe she didn’t know how to react because she was overwhelmed. On the other hand, if she didn’t like it, you could consider buying her a new one because she does have to wear this for the rest of her life. But I think she should understand the meaning behind the ring. The ring is simply an object representing the love the two of you share. What matters most is that you two are happy together and that you love each other. The ring is simply a reminder of the special feelings you share for one another. Just my opinion, though. I honestly don’t think you should go buy her a new one unless she really dislikes it.
Personally I would be PROUD to wear a ring like that…it has deep meaning and sentiment that most diamond engagement rings don’t have….and I do hope there’s a diamond in that ring that’s just ‘her’s’ lol.
However, understand she may have been conditioned to expect the common diamond solitaire so something different may take her some time getting used to…..I prefer the unique…hopefully with time she will too, and relish the idea that hers is one of a kind.
that sounds very thoughtful. you would need to ask her what she thinks about it. i think if a woman doesn’t like the engagement ring she should be able to get a different one, by returning the original one and getting something for the same price but a different style. since the diamonds have suck a meaning behind them, maybe design something together using those diamonds and gold and have a shop create it. i would try to incorporate the current ring into designing something she likes, and if not…. maybe discuss getting a new one. if it was me and we decided to get a new one i would offer to split the bill since the one given to me wouldn’t work. I love my ring, and we need to pick out the wedding band for it. i know my fiance has a budget for the band but we have already decided if i want something higher in price than what he is willing to spend i would fork out the rest to make sure it’s something i love. good luck and congrats! it’s very thought of you to do that for her
I would talk to her about this straight up, I think the ring has a lot of meaning to it, and I hope she is happy to be wearing it. But on the other hand she has to wear it for the rest of her life, so she should be happy with it!
talk to her abour it, ask her if she likes it or is upset with it and explain to her the meaning of the ring.. if she doesnt like it, shes not someone you should want to marry.. especially if they dont like the ring that means so much to u..
Okay, I’m going to be honest, I wouldn’t like it or wear it, not for the fact that its not new, or the fact that its not something you picked out or being “me”, BUT BECAUSE ITS YOUR FAMILY RING, I wouldnt wear it, I’d ask for one to wear everywhere but put that one up for safe keeping. I wouldnt want to wear it for fear of losing a diamond, the whole thing, I’d be so self conscious, looking at it every day to make sure everything is still in-tacked. (I lose things quickly). You’ll have to ask her maybe she just wants her own ring, I’m sure she appreciates and loves the meaning the one you gave her means… if this is the case, dont take away the one you have now, (7 stone one) But let her know you still want her to wear it sometimes, (Right hand, and maybe this is all she needs?)
ANd I must say the ring you gave her has too much meaning behind it to wear all the time like an engagement ring, an engagement ring (new) has only one memory to it and its important to 2 people, but the 7 diamond is important to your family, what happens if she loses it? Now its more than just you and her thats upset, but your entire family too. I couldnt handle that pressure, I’d wear it to family events and when I got home, right back into a safe place.
But you should talk to her about this, be honest and hope she’s honest with you, you’ll have to compromise, thats a relationship, and marriage is no different.
Does she wear it? If not where is it? In a safe spot or sitting on the dresser?