Hey guys….I’m an idiot. Here’s my story. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. We were pretty serious and all so I bought her a 1500$ promise/pre-engagement ring. Well…out of no where she is having mixed feelings about us now. She doesn’t know if she wants to be with me or be single. I don’t know what to do with the ring. Should I take it back and get my money back? Or should I let her keep it and hope that it will somehow bring her 100% back to me?!! I feel that if I take the ring away…it will make things worse and end things quicker? What should I do?!
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Damn dude i feel for you, you’re not an idiot, you just didn’t pick up that her interest level was so low. Hopefully you didn’t buy the promise ring just to hold the relationship together. If the girl has mixed feelings she isn’t even ready for a relationship let alone a promise ring. Don’t let her keep the ring, you can’t hope she will come back to you if you let her keep it. Why would you let someone keep a 1500 dollar ring if they don’t want to be with you? You probably work hard for your money, think of all the hours of work it took to get 1500 … now think of taking 1500 dollars, going to the toilet and flushing them away… does that make sense? Put the ball back in your court, get the ring back and when you do, tell her you think the best thing to do is to go your separate ways. Seems like she needs some time and isn’t ready to be committed anymore. Let her go and if she comes back then cool if not there are billions of women out there. Good Luck.
wait until it ends for good then ask for it back if shes just not sure then talk with her about it and figure it out!!! ……but 1500 bucks for a damn promise/pre-engagement ring that’s crazy sh!t and which one is it a promise ring or an engagement ring if your having a hard time deciding that then the relationship was rocky and you bought the ring thinking it would save things but in turn it made things worse!!!!!
~~~best of luck dude
Get your money back, if all else fails you could buy another one. Just dont spend the 1500 on something stupid.
Go sleep with the ***** and take the ****** ring back,,get your money back,,then keep ****** her for 2 days then dump her ***
don’t give it to her – she will walk all over you if you do. take it back and get your money back – you only have 30 days. should she change her mind later on – then go buy another one. why are you wasting your money on a promise ring just to turn around and buy an engagement ring – then a wedding ring? quit pu$$y-footing around and just ask her to marry you. and if aftter 4 years she is suddenly haveing second thoughts – there is probably another guy in the picture. take the ring back – you can always buy it again.
take ring back, let her go, look for somebody new without mix fillings
1500 bucks……take that sh!t back. Its a friggin’ promise ring. Now, if it were an actual engagement ring….I’d tell you to let her keep it.
Take it back and pawn that *****.
I think you should wait and see if she 100% backs out. If she does RETURN the ring and get your money back, BUT NOT BEFORE you show it to her and tell her the plan that you had of giving it to her, THAT WAY she will feel REALLY GUILTY and even though she might not come back right there and then, she will eventually want you back because she realized how serious you were about her. TRUST ME.
So keep it for now. DO NOT SHOW IT TO HER, that way you will know what she really feels.
IF SHE ALREADY SAW IT. Then do NOT let her keep it. She can not get away with LEAVING you and KEEPING the ring. That would be a complete humiliation for you man. Good LUck
Well, talk to her ask her why she isn’t sure. Maybe all she needs is for you to reassure her that it is a real commitment and that you really do love her. Tell her that she has nothing to worry about. If she simply thinks that she needs more time let her think about it. If when you are talking to her it seems that she really wants to stay with her keep the ring. If you think that she really doesn’t want to makes the commitment with you then take it back. Tell her that your opinion of her hasn’t changes, but there is no reason for you to keep the ring if she is not ready to wear it. She should understand. The important part is not the ring the important part is for you to figure out why she is not ready for it. Make sure that she is not hiding anything from you. Make sure she truly loves you. She may have said no because she doesn’t feel the same about you as you do about her. Hopefully, this is not the case, but you need to find out. Ask her and look into her eyes. There you will find the answers to your questions.
Keep it, nimrod. There are other women out there. Let that cow go. Stick the ring in a drawer and wait for the next time you feel spineless enough to want to get married.
id take that ring back from her,find someone that wont do that to u
I’d get my money back and fast. she is doubting you then she will definitely not marry you. Stuff like this happens all the time on Judge Mathis. if you don’t get it back now then you will both end up in court mad at each other and all of this drama.
Talk to her first. If she is not that into you, then take the ring and get your money back for it. She is not going to stay anyway, sorry, but she would not be acting this way other wise.
Keep the ring until she makes up her mind cause if she decides to stay wit u and u took the ring back she might get upset. If she leaves then u take it back and get your money back. Don’t keep it and give it to some other girl. The worse thing is giving a girl u love a ring that wasn’t ment for her in the first place. If u two don’t work out and u find someone, buy the girl a less expensive ring and a ring that was actually ment for her. P.S. WATCH OUT FOR GOLD DIGGERS.
You are not an idiot, Or I dont guess you are. She may just be having mixed feelings about all of this. She may just be really scared and all. I am kinda going through the same thing right now and all I know to do is just set back and let her figure things out for her self. We have 2 kids apiece so it makes it alittle tougher. Just comfort her in every way you know how and let her work through these feelings. I hope it works out for both of us. Good luck bro
Why after 4 years is she backing out. haven’t you two talked about marriage? Cold feet. give her the ring if you trust her.
take the ring back for a refund. chances are the girl is not committed to you. see, girls dont really care about the ring, or expensive stuff…if theyre decided, theyre decided, the ring dont matter. unless u are sauron, and live on mount doom…lol
maybe slap her around with a rubber ducky, see if she changes her mind…or voodoo dolls may help…
If you get it back, do not give it to another girl. We HATE when ya’ll try to give us another woman’s stuff! That is so wrong.
But if I were a guy, I’d let her keep it. Technically it’s hers anyway, because you GAVE it to her. Generally when you give someone a gift, it is theirs to keep and no longer your property. That’s just my two cents. Good luck! Sorry you’re going through this mess!
Get your money back… while bribery goes a long way with some women, in this case that ring is just a barrier. If she has a soul, she’ll feel guilty about keeping it… and if she wants to stay with you, you can always get another (CHEAPER) one. And if she has no soul, you shouldn’t be spending money on her.
What is the return policy on the ring? If it’s something like a 30 day, give her two weeks to figure things out. If she can’t figure it out in two weeks, it means she’s not really thinking about it… and she’s probably going to leave you.
Almost sounds as if she has already made her mind up but is having difficulties being honest with you. You dont want to be with anyone that is having doubts about being with you. If there is any question do not move forward. If you gave her the ring it would not be proper to ask for it back. If she is a true lady and someone who honestly cares about you she will return it to you. If not consider yourself lucky you did not marry this woman because you would have to pay way more than just a ring. Good luck to you.
That sucks…. it sounds like your proposal made her think seriously about her future with you and may have scared her a bit. I wouldn’t go so far as to say you were stupid to offer her the ring…. I mean 4 years is a long time to be with someone and lots of guys ask a lot sooner.
I say don’t do anything until a decision is made, either by you or by her, about splitting up. A that point, you ask for the ring back.
But really, if she was a decent person, she’d give you the ring back on her own since it’s her causing the breakup.
the ring probably scared her. make sure to tell her your not asking for marriage right now, you could also ask her if she thinks its too big of a gift. and hopefuly she will be honest. tell her to think about things and if she doesnt want the ring that you will understand.
Can you bring it back for a refund?
If you can afford it, then keep it for the next girl.