I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I’m 20 years old (soon to be 21) and we’ve been together since we were 17.
He’s really great and claims he loves me more than anything.
He’s really loving and if he has the money, he’ll buy me anything I want. But I just feel like something’s missing. I never want to kiss him, or hug him. And if I do, I pull away. I know it hurts his feelings, but I can’t help it.
Plus, he’s lied so much in the past. About stupid things, mostly. But a lot of other things that I took seriously. I think he’s a compulsive liar.
For example, we both stopped smoking cigarettes at the same time. I was so proud that we did it.. but only to find out he’d been smoking behind my back and lying about. I found out and he said he’d never do it again because it was something we were supposed to do together, then a year later i found out he’d been lying for the WHOLE past year and that he was smoking still and never quit. Then the next year it happened again. Well, now he is supposedly not smoking or anything. But he lies so much I don’t know what to believe anymore. That’s not the only thing he’s lied about..it’s just one of the big ones.
I don’t mean to blame him for everything, but he was the first real relationship I ever had and my “first” and only.
I hate feeling like this and it hurts my feelings but I can’t ever see myself marrying him. One reason is because he spent everybit of money he had saved up for my engagement ring on cigarettes each day at work. So, i HATE cigarettes even more. haha! But, what should I do?
Everything seems perfect now, as in I don’t think he’s lying anymore. But then I have this little voice saying “How do you know?”.
I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I’m gettin’ to the point where I can’t stand him. Everything he says gets on my nerves and makes me mad. I try to be nice, but it’s just an act. I don’t know what to do.
I just need help!
Any advice would be appreciated.
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omg honey i am going through the exact same thing right now! I had been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years and i broke up with him yesterday. He knew i was very against smoking weed and he kept doing it. After i found out he would apologize and i would let it go, but yesterday was my breaking point. I found out he had smoked weed and lied about it. Our relationship was to the point where i found that his “cute” things he did were repulsive and i just got irritated being around him. He treated me so well but i had to let him go and now i’m feeling horrible like we should be together because i can’t imagine being with someone else. I know how you feel but be strong and do the right thing just let him go and if it’s meant to be you will be together again. life has a funny way of sorting things out. I’m glad i saw ur question it’s good to know someone is going through a similar situation. much love.