A woman I sit next to at work pays me compliments such as, “you’re a really positive person,” and “you’re really laid back,” and, “you’re really funny,” and “the thing I like about you is. She says these things to the point where it gets embarrassing. However, she is rather beautiful, so I decided to ask her out.
However, before I had the chance to do this, she made comments to other colleagues about finding a single rich man. Fair enough, I thought, I joke about finding a rich woman. Yesterday, though, she asked me if I knew which finger the wedding ring and engagement ring went on, I answered that I really wasn’t sure, then she said, “Oh, not that I’m thinking of becoming your wife or anything, you’re the perfect work colleague, and women will throw themselves at you once you’ve reached the top.” She has also recently said that I should invite her out to dinner once I’m famous and know lots of celebrities.
This brings out several issues for me. Firstly, by no means have I reached the top. I’m in my mid-thirties and was recently nearly sacked from a high-paying job but got a low-paid agency temp. job instead, just when I could afford my own property and move out of my parent’s place. The job I moved to is the one where I met this woman, who is also a temp, doing the same job as me – I think she also left her previous job under dodgy circumstances. She lives in rented accommodation.
Also, I know at least three couples who got together when the man had by no means ‘reached the top’. All three still lived with their parents when they met their significant others, who they’ve all been with for years. One man worked in a pub, and two other men were full-time students – and one of these full-time students recently married girlfriend, who has a management job.
Should a man only find a girlfriend once he’s at the top of his career, or should a couple share the journey to success together? I was hurt by what she said, and I want to know what people think.
People tell me I’m fun to be around and a natural entertainer, but I’m at a point where I’m switching careers, but I don’t know what career that will be yet and I’m at a point where I don’t know who or what or where I am in life. When I was in my teens, while my fellow teens were mentally mapping out when they would buy their properties and how much they’d be earning by a certain age, I was mentally mapping out developing a fun entertaining personality to replace my painfully shy personality, which I’d planned to have by now, so by my own standards, I’m a success, and I’m only just turning my attention to a ‘proper’ career now as the job I had before was just one I fell into when was earning just enough money to go out and have a good time.
I’m rambling now, but my feelings are strong over this, and I’d like other people’s opinions.
Many thanks.
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To answer your subject line (because I haven’t had enough coffee yet to peruse your excessively long post) the answer is an easy No. Just like all guys aren’t azzholes.
Women make their own money (most do) nowadays…there are fewer gold-diggers than ever actually. A few decades ago women needed men…now we don’t (we can take care of ourselves) so we go for men we desire and want to be with, not just someone to support and provide for us.
Hang in there sugar…if you’ve had some bad experiences get past them. There are over 3 billion females on the planet. PLENTY of good choices available for you. Women have negative experiences with men too…so you’re not alone. It takes a while sometimes to find a suitable partner. ???
wELL, im fifteen girl
and i could give a rats *** about money. ill marry a poor guy if he has a large heart and kick a rich guy in the balls if he’s a douche.
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Agh. Not all women are golddiggers. Just because you’ve met a few women who are it does not mean you can group every woman on the planet into the gold digger catergory. Though there are a fair few. It’s your life and you shouldn’t be writing on Yahoo answers and asking how to live it.
Didn’t read the whole thing buuutt, I personally think you should not wait until you have ‘reached the top’, because:
1. you may never get there
2. the girl of your dreams could pass you by
3. It’d be a lonely ‘journey’
4. If someone is not happy to be with you because your not ‘at the top’ then why would you want to be with them at all?
lol, u have fully psycho analyse this inside out.
I don’t understand how a dumb as* chick got you turning yourself inside out….lol.
Okay, i’ll keep this simple, she’s is a pretty dumb as* chick. If she’s smart and independent it would be beneath her to talk like that. You on the other hand seem to be going through a quarter life crisis – but then again who isn’t in these hard times. You think that what ever weird thing is happening out there is some how a by product of yourself…..lol…take a chill pill mate….
Well the one that you are defining is really just for money and flirt. But then if you think all women are same, you are very very wrong. THERE ARE WORSE TOO!
Yeah I know I’m a girl but honestly there are sooo many types out there you can’t count. The thing is, the only thing that matters to you is, what type do you want? She’s there… you just wait and look for her around.
And leave this one alone… she’s a waste of time. An attention ho**
If the woman was really interested in you, she would have wanted to go out with you right then and there instead of WAITING for you to “reach the top” whatever the hell that means.
dude, you are a grown man, why are you asking us if its better to only date women when you’re at the top? you should date women when you’re settled down enough to be ready for a commitment, you should want to date women when you feel good and confident in yourself.
now its okay for a woman to WANT her man to be working instead of being bum, that’s just how some of us are, we want to make sure who we are getting involved with, but that doesn’t mean all we want is money. Like the other user said, we make our own money now, we’re in a new generation now and we really don’t men at all, having men is just icing on a cake. we’re independent creatures.
SHE was only ONE woman and for SOME unknown reason you felt that you should judge the whole race of women?