We recently split after 14 years (!!) and he is now with someone else. His wife had died, I helped bring up his 2 daughters who are now 25 and 23, and the eldest gets married on 30th June. I haven’t been invited but have sent a present. However, I would really like to see her in her dress and her sister as bridesmaid.
Should I slip in quietly and leave before the bride, sit somewhere obvious and throw confetti afterwards, or go with a friend and just act normal as if I have a right to be there?
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It really depends on your relationship with the bride and her sister.
Drop her a note asking if she would mind you doing any of the things you have mentioned. Don’t pressure her by calling and putting her on the spot, but ask that she let you know either by phone or by post in a few days when she has had time to think about it (and probably confer with the rest of the family).
If she decides that it would be too awkward to have you there, then maybe she could let you have some photos afterwards.
I guess this must be a very painful time for you, but if you behave with dignity, then I am sure you will be able to maintain the kind of relationship you want with these young ladies.
I hope you get your wish. Good luck x
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I dont think you should go. She hasnt invited you. She prob hasnt out of loyalty to her dad as he has someone else.
Its good that you sent a present. I would also send a card saying it would be nice to see some pictures or come over and congratulate her in person.
I understand why you want to go, I would feel the same way, but I dont think you should.
no stay away if only for your own sake as if you turned up at the wedding it might spoil the brides day if trouble flares up
I understand your desire go to, but attending uninvited wouldn’t be kewl. Do ask her to please send photos though because you want to see her dress and the colors/theme.
sure that sounds nice…have fun..hug her and then skip the reception
If you weren’t invited I wouldn’t go. Chances are someone will see you there and it could get ugly. You don’t want to ruin her big day. I understand how you feel, and perhaps you should have been invited, after all you were like a step-mother to her, however it still stands that you invitation got “lost in the mail.” If you love her respect her wishes, that may have been perpetrated by her father.
hell no r u crazy.. if i was your kids and u did that i would kill u…
jessica
You were not invited, so stay away. It is that simple.
Ask the daughter to send you a picture of herself in her dress. If you were overlooked on the invite, then this is a subtle reminder. If you still don’t get an invite, then stay out of it.
Response: To your last question….YOU WERE NOT INVITED!!!!
If you were not invited, don’t go. If you really want this girl to be happy respect that this is her day, not yours, and unless she invites you, stay away.
Just go and have fun,it will be alright relax and have a few glasses of wine, avoid you ex if you think that is better but if you brought them up, Im sure they would miss you if you werent there!
Ask miss manners on the washington post. She always has a good answer for this type of situation.
yes you should go and take a hunk with ya..I’m Free
get your glad rags on n go hon,have fun xxx
If you haven’t been invited, you really shouldn’t go.
Go with a friend watch the wedding then just slip away before the photos X Cindy