So a married woman gets invited to the wedding as a the date of the not so recently separated – getting divorced guy.They are acquainted through family -her side.So knowing that his daughter is the one to be married, the wife -mom will probably be there with one of her boyfriends.
Now what is the acceptable etiquette here.Accept invite to wedding and reception, just reception or none at all.Is that a taboo thing. The ex -wife is the cheater here as well. TMI I know. i need a sincere genuine answer.Would this be upsetting to the bride.Should that conversation be left for separated parents to navigate. It seems awkward.The other point here is.that the married woman being invited – her husband cheated. The married woman is not out to cheat just wondering if she should go.There are no sexual innuendos just an invitation to celebrate an occasion . She has also known the kids from young just not acquainted with the ex -cheating wife,At what cost to the bride though.
Should this even matter? Extra points for a real answer .Zero for lame response.
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Hmmm … this is a pretty sticky situation. If it were me, I wouldn’t do it. Two married people should not go to a wedding together if they are not married to each other … particularly if the separation is recent as you said.
A) It will likely be upsetting to the bride. It may feel to her like her parents are getting all the attention on her special day – and she would probably be right as people would no doubt be gossiping at their tables about the situation.
B) Whether the pair are there as a “date” or not would not matter as people would assume it is one – also taking attention away from the bride and groom.
C) If you are even going to consider going with this man, then at least sit down and talk about the situation with the bride and groom and the wife. The last thing you need is to show up at a wedding and appear as the “other woman” to other guests. Not to mention the wife will likely make a scene when the pair of you walk in together. Being the date of the father of the bride is going to get you a lot of negative attention if he is recently separated.
From my perspective, a bad idea all around. I would not want to be put into that situation at all. You may think you are doing the husband a favour, but in the end it will be really taking the focus off the bride and groom, and putting a lot of negative attention on yourself.
Is the married women and husband still together?? Being that he cheated does she really car if he knows or not??
That is really up to her, If she wants to go than by all means go I don’t see any harm in it do to that fact that her husband cheated.
Its not right…If you are going to do this you might as well look for a divorce lawyer. It sounds like you want revenge.
Your going as a supportive friend…Does your husband understand that?
A person who is still legally married, but is formally separated, should be seen as single for dating purposes as a formal separation does involve filing official legal paperwork in court and so can be seen as a valid end of marriage, even if this person can’t marry another yet. A person who is still legally married and NOT formally separated should not be dating yet, not until there is the commitment to follow through on divorcing as can be shown by a legal separation.
It doesn’t matter who cheated first. With a separation, there is a clear understanding that the marriage is over and there are no fidelity expectations. But when there’s no legal separation, then there is some measure of fidelity expected, even if it hasn’t been respected.
This separated man is free to date who he wished, but this married woman has no business yet dating around. If that woman wants to date this man, she needs to get herself down to the courthouse and file for an official separation.
Although the man and his soon-to-be ex-wife are free to see other people, the daughter’s wedding is too close to the seperation/divorce for him to consider taking another woman as a date (regardless of intention) unless his daughter has given her permission. This should apply to the ex-wife bringing a date too. It has to be sorted out between the 3 of them before your friend can consider accepting the invitation, otherwise she could find herself in the middle of a very, very awkward situation. It’s the bride’s day – her father and mother should abide by her wishes.
Although your question says that there is no sexual undercurrent between them, it seems as though there really is. She needs to sort things out with her husband and either date this other man as a free agent or commit to her marriage. Anything else is bound to get messy, and who needs the stress?