hi, my sister is getting married next fall, and she is going to marry an atheist. I’m not all sure on how against God he is, but the problem is, is that we’re Catholic. She is not totally sure where she should have the wedding. For the past 5 generations weddings in our family have been in a church. So what should they do?
Should they have it in a church or some place less religious (like a park or a town building) ?
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My partner and I are not Atheists, but we are non-religious agnostics and are getting married in a church anyways. It’s tradition and both of our families are very religious and we’re just having a wedding for them anyways. I don’t believe in the marriage ritual myself. It’s not a big deal really, but if they don’t feel comfortable getting married in a church for tradition or the family’s sake, having a non-religious ceremony at some other location is fine. So what if your family has 5 generations of weddings in a church? Times change.
Oh by the way, sometimes the priests won’t marry non-Catholics, but it’s not very hard to lie and say you’re religious so you can get he church setting! Just because he’s an Atheist, doesn’t mean he can’t fool the priest into thinking otherwise!
well shes breaking the treand!!! who cares let her have it where she wants.it is her wedding
Even if she wanted it the church, I’m pretty sure no priest would agree to marry them there, since he’s an atheist. I am more worried about whether or not your sister has thought about a future with a man whose core values are so different from hers. Not to say that either one is right or wrong, but what happens if they have kids? How will they be raised? I just hope she thought about all that stuff before now!
Anyway, just because you are not in a church, doesn’t mean that you are far from God. I got married in the Valley of Fire (in the Mojave Desert), which in my opinion is one of God’s most beautiful creations. We were outside, and our ceremony wasn’t very religious…we wrote our own vows and were pronounced man and wife. It was perfect for us.
They can pretty much get married anywhere else. It doesn’t have to be a civil ceremony as someone mentioned before. They can probably even get married in a non-Catholic church if they wanted. I’d look into something outside…that way she can feel close to God, and he won’t feel awkward.
Two of my friends, one Catholic and the other an atheist, were married in a church. They had to have special counseling with the priest and sign a contract regarding their relationship and future children, and such. Other than the extra counseling, there were no problems, least of all with it being in a church.
Really, though, any place can be the setting for a beautiful wedding, it just takes a little work.
If he is comfortable in her church, then have it there. If he’s not, they need to find, perhaps, a non-denominational setting. I understand that we like to follow, and please, the generatins before us, however, she and he need only to please each other now.
The answer to her problem can be found in 2 Corinthians 6:14.
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?” (KJV)
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (NIV)
“Do not be teamed with those who do not love the Lord, for what do the people of God have in common with the people of sin? How can light live with darkness?” (LB)
Even if they wanted to have it in a catholic church, I don’t think any catholic priest would agree to marry them in a church. They will probably have to have a civil ceremony.
you she is catholic and he is atheist they cannot marry in the church unless he converts. it is unlikely that an atheist will convert. she shouldn’t get married in a church just because 5 generations of people have…that’s stupid.
i don’t know what you know about atheists, but they are not crazy god hating people. they just think religion is ridiculous, but are generally cool with people have one. they however, don’t like when others shove religion upon others…i.e. they wouldn’t want to raise their kids Catholic…which i believe is a requirement for being married in the Catholic church.
i’m not saying their lives will be bad…i’m saying they can’t get marrying in the Catholic church unless he totally throws his self worth out the window
Hi. Let your sister and her fiance figure it out. You should not be concerned.
to be a happy couple in gods eyes, we as gods children are to be both from and praise to god. she is to love god first and if he doesnt love god then she shouldnt be with him.
They should have it where they want it. Doesn’t sound like she’s particularly religious herself (otherwise she wouldn’t be marrying an atheist), so they should probably go with a park.
Just because he is an atheist does not mean he wont get married in Church. Has she asked him?
If she is a practising Catholic and he is real anti they could have problems later.
There are lots of brides in this situation and the question pops up in forums all the time. Usually there is a way to a compromise but it is often the parents that are adamant. The Catholics seem to be the most staunch.
Best of luck to her.
Your sister is getting married. She is not totally sure where she should have the wedding. Fortunately for all of you, there is a man involved in this wedding. He and your sister should talk about their wedding and then tell both families what they want.
Especially with the Roman Catholic church, it’s not as simple as just telling a clergyman that you’ll be using his building, or that he’ll be meeting you in the park. Many priests won’t marry a couple who have no connection to their church.
What about this: tell your sister and her fiance that you’ve collected advice from 1000 ignorant strangers and you can give them the report whenever they want it.
If you have a grand historical mansion in the area, she could rent it out for the wedding.
And just an aside, hopefully she won’t regret giving up the church wedding! Is he not willing to get married in a church? I mean, he’s marrying a Catholic, so why would he be opposed to having the wedding in a church?
maybe its not the best idea for them to marry, their religions could cause a lot of frictin in their relationship
Don’t know if anyone’s answered this way but…
They can get married in a church if they want, just not a Catholic church.
I think it is impossible for to people to be together if one is a decout catholic and the other is an atheist. However, I think they should get married in a church and maybe the pre-marital counseling will shed some light on things from a spiritual perspective. Ultimately, it is up to them…but keeping God first it the way for a successful marriage.
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