she wants me to have a church wedding because if you have your wedding outside god will not be there. in her church only people who are pregnant get married outside. but im not pregnant. i just want an outdoor garden princess wedding. she said she wont attend if i dont have it in a church. what should i do.
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You should do what you want, because it is your wedding. You need to do what will make you happy. If you’re mother is that big of a ***** that she won’t come to your wedding because it’s outside, then you really don’t want her there. I personally think she’s bluffing, because there aren’t many mothers that would really miss their daughter’s wedding.
As for the god bit, doesn’t she believe that god is omnipresent? That’s what the bible claims, is it not? If so, then by definition, god will be there. Really, If you believe in god and believe that god created everything, wouldn’t you think that god would be happy that you want to get married in a place where you are surrounded by his creations? Wouldn’t that make sense?
Hopefully, you’ll only be doing this once, so you owe it to yourself to not cater to anyone but yourself and your fiancee while planning your wedding. This is your day, and you need to do what makes you happy.
Tell her “oh well”. Or mention if God sees everyone no matter where they are God will be there. Ask her where it says in the Bible that God wants people to be married in churches and nowhere else.
Have it where YOU want it. If SHE wants to miss out on her child’s big day of her life, then that is HER problem.
Everybody learns that God is everywhere, but I guess your mother missed that part in Sunday School.I’m not trying to judge your church’s beliefs but if that is true than that is stupid. If I were you I’d do whatever I wanted its your wedding
Outdoor weddings are the bomb, I’ve been to alot. hopefully my band will get to play at one soon.
You are grown up now and so need to move on with your dreams and ideas. If your mother is paying for the wedding, then tell her that you wont need her money since you will pay and have it the way you want it and you KNOW that she would want your happiness ( even though she doesnt understand it) If she is not paying, then no problem.
thats just silly god is everywhere, he needs sun to!!!!!!!
God doesn’t make a church, people do. As my nine year old says, ‘God lives in your heart”. God is everywhere and will be there during your union.
God isn’t bound by a building/church.
I would ask her how she knows God won’t be there, because I am pretty sure that if God chose to talk to someone, it wouldn’t be somebody so closed minded and ridiculous like your mom.
You can also point out what is in the bible to your church going mom: “Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” Matthew_18:18-20
If you let someone push you into having the wedding they want, you will regret it far more than you wouldn’t standing up for yourself. I would go ahead and plan the wedding the way you want it to be and remain calm at all times with your mother. Don’t let her provoke you, make you angry, or talk you into having something different. I am hoping your fiance will back you up on this as well.
Make your plans and invite your mom. It then becomes her decision whether or not to attend.
I’m sorry, but that’s a bit absurd. How can you be any closer to God than by being out in nature, surrounded by the majesty of God’s creations?
Since you are obviously not religious, and you and your fiance are paying for the wedding, you plan what you want. I couldn’t fathom not having my mom at my wedding though.
I thought princess weddings could only happen in churches, though… do you have a groom-to-be? Will he be the prince?
Have the wedding of your dreams GOD is everywhere! It will be your Mother’s loss if she refuses to attend.
Well, God made the out of doors, and to my knowledge he built no churches in those 7 days, I would think that his presence would be more felt out of doors in his creation than in a building that a man had built.
Tell your mother that God is omnipresent, He is everywhere!!! She should know that, it’s in the Bible.
Wow, uh… I don’t know what to tell you. It’s not her wedding, it’s yours. Challenge her… isn’t god supposed to be everywhere? Tell her that her presence isn’t necessary if she won’t support you.
This is your wedding do what you want. God will be there he is everywhere.Hopefully your mom will come around. good luck and cogradulations
If your Mom truly believes in God, she’d know that God is everywhere and as long as the marriage is done by an ordained minister/pastor/ add your own here. The marriage would be done before the eyes of God. Remember u only get to have one wedding…if your one the blessed ones.
OMG I can’t stand when people say things like that.She is just tryin to make you do want she wants & i’m sorry but you need to tell her to get a grip.Last I heard God made the whole world so I think God is everywhere not Just at your local church, so I think God can make an apperance in whatever venue you choose.If the priest can go there so can God.
God personally told me he’d be at my wedding, and it is outside.
You need to have an adult conversation with your mother and explain how completely cruel that is and how damaging her refusal to attend your wedding will be to your relationship.
God isn’t everywhere? That is obscene to me–doesn’t the Bible start off with the story of God making everything on earth? Isn’t God omnipresent? That means he is everywhere-including at outdoor garden weddings.
Why wouldn’t God be in his greatest sanctuary… Nature???
Tell your mother, “I’ll miss you and wish you would be there, but we believe that God is everywhere, even outdoors.”
I’m sorry for you. I would attend my daughter’s wedding, even if it was below the surface of the sea… They are my children and I love them.
Hope she sees the light soon.
It is YOUR Wedding. DO what YOU wish to do. God is everywhere, by definition. Your mother is WRONG. If that is her attitude, I would not WANT her there. Do what makes you happy. It is your day, not hers. You only should be married once, make it the best for you both that it can be!
Is there any way to compromise? Have a priest or minister officiate the ceremony?
Here is my answer to those who believe you have to be married in a church for it to be valid:
The God(dess) creature nature, man created church. No matter what your religion, God is everywhere. He created everything, right? The earth, moon, stars? If anything, IMO, a ceremony out in the great wide open is much more spiritual, and closer to (the) God(s) than a ceremony within the confinements of a stuffy building built by men.
That is absurd! Have your wedding where YOU want it!….and Congratulations!
First of all GOD is everywhere all the time. God never leaves you.
Second her throwing a fit over an outside wedding could be the beginning of a far deeper issue, Like trying to control your marriage. Put your foot down now. This is you and your fiance’s wedding, My sister in law tried the same crap and we kindly moved forward and if she comes great if now oh well. My wedding is going to take 20 minutes for peat’s sake. and my reception is inside.
So have your outside wedding but have an inside reception. Maybe she will go for that. But this is yall’s day not hers but remember this woman is going to be your mother-in-law soon and she is going to be in your life for ever. So if you start letting her push you around now she will do it until ends time.
Decide wat is more important to you.
Hmmm…send her an invitation? Too bad she won’t come to the wedding, but its YOUR wedding not hers. If you believe in God you have to believe that he’s everywhere…not just in a building.
Why do Mothers get this way with their daughters. She is trying to push her beliefs on you and this isn’t right. You need to do what you want regardless. This is you Wedding and not hers. Remind her of that. God is everywhere. She needs to read her Bible. Ask her to show you where in the Bible it states that you have to get married in a church? People in the Bible days before they built the Taberbernacles were married. Where did they get married? This is just pure foolishness.
Think to yourself, “Who’s wedding is it?”
Then think to yourself, “I’m going to have an outdoor wedding whether she likes it or not!”
Sweetheart, it’s your wedding, it’s one day where everything is going to go PERFECTLY, and everything is going to be the way you and your fiance want it to be. If your mother doesn’t want to be present, then explain to her how important it is for her to be there. How can god NOT be there? God is everywhere, whether it’s at home, at work, in the car, OUTSIDE, all over!!
Congratulations, and good luck. =]
Bottom line, It’s not your mothers wedding.
Pardon me for being blunt but what a stupid thing for her to say.
If you want her there then you know you have to get married in a church BUT I was always taught that God was omnipotent which meant He was EVERYWHERE at all times.
Its your day, you can do whatever you want and God is all around not just in church
You can have your wedding outside, but have it blessed by your church minister or have the church minister perform the wedding rituals with just you and your husband and two witnesses and then you have the “ceremony” outside like you wish. If you ask me though your mom has it wrong. God is everywhere outside (just look at the brilliant blue of the sky, and the fluffly white clouds, and the gorgeous colors of the flowers, and the life everywhere (from itsy bitsy ladybugs to raccoons and birds (especially bluejays and cardinals with their brilliant colors) and the air we breathe – that’s where God is every day (not just on sundays or for weddings or funerals). That’s where my bible tells me my God is. Good luck to you and God Bless your marriage.