Comments on: Frustrated. To Invite Or Not To Invite?

By: bookshop

bookshop — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 12:05:14 +0000

Invite your fiance’s parents, and ONLY his parents. Don’t tell them that you’re getting married during their visit – just tell them that you would like for them to come visit, give them the specific dates. And if you want them to bring dress-up clothes, tell them to bring something nice because you’ll be going out to dinner with your new boss.
Then you and your fiance and your parents get everything ready. Get married during his parents visit, whether at city hall or in a church or in your house. The siblings who have been trash-talking the both of you don’t get invited because they don’t know when to shut up. So it’s the two of you and the parents, small ceremony, and on to married life.

By: Shut it, troll.

Shut it, troll. — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 11:52:04 +0000

That was waaaay more than one thousand words…
How did you fit all of that in one post?
Anyways, why dont you two get married at City Hall with your parents as witnesses? That way you can avoid all of the wedding drama and your parents can still be there to see you guys.
And by the way, his family is a bunch of assholes. Dont invite them, they’ll prolly just go out of their way to ruin your special day.
Good luck and congrats!

By: MLE

MLE — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 07:09:17 +0000

Have a small wedding, invite your parents to stand up for you and someone your fiancee trusts to stand up for him. That is it, don’t invite anyone else, it will make your parents happy because they got to see you married and he will have someone he trusts and cares about to stand with him on his wedding day.

By: sorryfoo

sorryfoo — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:15:41 +0000

Ok. I read the whole thing. My two cents is for you guys to plan to get married the way you want. Invite his family as guests – they don’t have to have any part of the planning or anything else. If you are having wedding speeches then don’t offer to let them speak. If you chose not to invite the rude members of his family then at least invite the members that are nice to you both. You both should be able to talk to his mother freely without the opinions of others coming into it. It sounds like the other family members are trouble makers and there’s no telling what they’ve told his mom you both have said. Clear the air before you do anything else.

By: Just Me

Just Me — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:37:31 +0000

Yeah really, it’s way too long, you lost me at FLIPPED. Condense it… more people will read it and answer. Give us the gist, not the play by play.

By: Reda T

Reda T — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:59:43 +0000

First of all that was a long post …but I did manage to read through most of it….and these are my thoughts….my husbands family hated me and my kids….they actually introduced my kids and the baggage that I drug into the family, and during the weddint speech my brother in law referred to my by the ex’s name, we have not spoken to them since 6 weeks after the wedding….that being said, my husband is still thankful that I let him have his family there….and so do we. As long as there will be no physic violence….try to make it work.

By: bigrdc

bigrdc — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 10:21:36 +0000

well even if you do elope you need a witness to the matrimony so invite your parents to be the witnesses and elope i really hope this helps seems like you are having bad luck

By: dragonfl

dragonfl — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:23:02 +0000

Elope and move far far away.It’s never going to get better.My inlaws caused issues at our wedding and every two or three years they do it again.I get blamed.I ignore them,leran to live without them and if he wants to see them that is his choice,you don’t have to do it.Have a big party after and invite everyone.That way your wedding day is peaceful and the party is….well everyone loves a good party.Just take your parents along as witnesses.Tell NO ONE ELSE!

By: jaded

jaded — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 04:01:35 +0000

set some boundaries. his family should not know any of your personal business. period. you should be completely polite to everyone in his family. period. he should make paying his personal debts a hot priority, period.
if you find these things impossible to do, then the problem is you two, no one else. take care of your own personal business, be polite, and everything else will fall into place.
it really is just that easy. if it is not for you, there is more going on here than you are willing to admit to.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 02:59:46 +0000

Little long, I read only the last paragraph. But bottom line, it’s your wedding, invite who you want to invite.