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Comment on What Are The Parents Of The Groom Expected Do For The Wedding? by grammie

grammie — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 23:10:20 +0000

traditionally – groom & his family:
brides rings
gift to bride
gifts to attendants
lodging for out of town guests
marriage certificate
post-rehearsal celebration (rehearsal dinner)
rehearsal
share of groomsmen expenses*
boutonnieres
bride’s bouquet
grooms attire and accessories
groomsmen’s accessories*
mothers’ corsages
officiant’s fee
honeymoon entertainment
honeymoon gratuities
groom’s luggage
groom’s honeymoon wardrobe
lodging and meals
transportation
*optional
but in real life it’s all optional – if they can and want to help great but now whoever can pay should cover what they can
see if you can find an inexpensive place near the church
or if they’ll let you use a room in the church and they can just bring the prepaired food there (this would be my choice)

Comment on What Are The Parents Of The Groom Expected Do For The Wedding? by Suz123

Suz123 — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 17:44:04 +0000

That is technically all they are obligated to do. Be happy with what you have.
Some in-laws do nothing.
EDIT: BTB 5 -2-10 What year was that wedding planning book edited in 1959??

Comment on What Are The Parents Of The Groom Expected Do For The Wedding? by kaina

kaina — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 11:41:50 +0000

Does the church have a social hall there? Can his parents bring the food they have prepared to the church hall, and serve it there? Discuss the situation with his parents . . . and ask the parents if they would be willing to do this.
Or is your home close to the church? Could parents serve the food there?
Your only other option? You and your fiance pay for the rehearsal dinner yourselves.
If two people are mature enough to wed, they are mature enough to pay for their own wedding. If parents offer to assist, one has the option of gratefully accepting their offer . . . or the option of politely declining. One does not get to tell the parents how to assist (such as suggesting a restaurant near the church) . . . or how much money to give you.
But asking if the food they prepare could be served at the church? I think that would be okay.

Comment on What Are The Parents Of The Groom Expected Do For The Wedding? by B2B 5/22/10

B2B 5/22/10 — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 06:11:18 +0000

If that is what they can do then let them do it. Now is not the time to start a rift with the future in laws. YOU think its too much to ask and really this one small thing is irrelevant to the rest of the festivities. If this is what they are doing then how, as you mentioned, can it be avoided? If you pay for ot? Beggars can’t be choosers. You sound like a spoiled brat-’ I don’t think its fair…’. Be grateful for what they can do and please show your appreciations. If you do not like it and can’t afford to do it on your own than smile and take it like a grown up!

Comment on What Are The Parents Of The Groom Expected Do For The Wedding? by CindyLu

CindyLu — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 23:32:31 +0000

You really have 3 options…
1. Leave it as it stands. Let your soon to be In-laws throw the party for you at their house. Give your bridal party (and anyone else you invite) a heads up and if they don’t come then you can’t force them.
2. Suggest to your soon to be in-laws that it seems kind-of far and see if there is somewhere else that is closer to the church that you can have it.
3. You can tell them thank you but you would really like to have it closer to the church and you and your fiance are going to pay for it. If they want to help out with the cost they can.
I think they should have asked for your opinions however this is the part they said they would take care of. Please don’t take this as me being mean because that’s not how it’s intended. If could be worse though, they could have told you the week before they couldn’t have it at all.

Comment on What Are The Parents Of The Groom Expected Do For The Wedding? by It's Me the BTB 10-1-10!!

It's Me the BTB 10-1-10!! — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 19:24:36 +0000

Honey his parents are not responsible for helping out with the wedding. Today many couples pay for things themselves but by tradition the wedding and reception is on the bride’s family.
The groom’s family is responsible for the rehersal dinner. It can be what ever THEY want it to be, not what you would choose or what you expect. You already said they were pinched for money. Who isn’t today? Give them a break and try being grateful for what they are doing. They don’t have to do anything to help out with the wedding. You just need to scale things back a bit.

Comment on What Are The Parents Of The Groom Expected Do For The Wedding? by Luv2Answ

Luv2Answ — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 18:10:33 +0000

Traditionally the grooms parents only pay for the rehearsal dinner. You may see it as an inconvenience for people, but this may be all his parents can afford to contribute. As always, people have the choice of whether or not they are going to go to the rehearsal dinner. A 1/2 hour isn’t that big of a deal for most people. I wouldn’t risk hurting his parents feelings over it, you don’t want to put them in an awkward position of having to admit to their son and FDIL that this is all they can afford. Just be appreciative that they are offering to pay for the dinner!

Comment on What Are The Parents Of The Groom Expected Do For The Wedding? by FutureMr

FutureMr — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 14:46:21 +0000

The groom’s parents take care of the rehearsal. 30 minutes isn’t too far to drive. If someone doesn’t want the free meal after the rehearsal then they don’t have to come. It’s not his parents fault that your parents spent their money on your sister’s wedding and don’t have much left for yours.

Comment on Wedding Question? by JenV

JenV — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 13:04:01 +0000

At the ceremony, no one’s even likely to notice that you’re alone. The concentration should be on the ceremony.
If the bride has volunteered for you to bring a guest, and if your sister would like to accompany you, then feel free for her to come along.
Personally, I wouldn’t feel the situation was awkward. At the reception, where you know more people, your friends there are certain to know the circumstances if you are there alone.

Comment on Wedding Question? by Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 11:45:07 +0000

You’re imagining that this event will be awkward or lonely if you go alone, but you haven’t tried it. Why not go by yourself and see what it’s like? As a military wife, you will probably face a lot of situations like this one. It’s a great opportunity to try something new.
Show your love and support your friend and when you leave the reception you’ll have this great feeling of having accomplished something on your own that you didn’t think you could do. Go and have a good time!